50 Shades Of Grey (hair)


Should I color my hair or let it go grey(er)?

I ask myself this question every time I look in the mirror.

Currently I’ve got more grey than I’ve ever had and I’m not covering it or masking it on purpose. I do wear ball caps and a headband but their jobs are to keep my hair out of my face and/or the sun out of my eyes.

Notably it does make me look older.  I don’t have a lot of wrinkles on my face and I FEEL younger than 50.


When I broke the news to my friend Mary (who happens to be my stylist) she was concerned about my hair! WHO would be the boss of my hair? I decided for financial reasons I would be the boss of my hair (and the hair of all of the family).

I didn’t know much about style and frankly I didn’t really CARE too much about it either. If my hair was growing, I was good with it. If it was in my face then I wanted to cut it off. ALL OF IT. Randy, on the other hand, wasn’t keen with me and my “just buzz it off” carefree attitude. Mary wouldn’t let me do it either. So, I agreed to not cut it…but I knew how much work was involved in “upkeep” and I just wasn’t interested in that nor would I have the resources (we were living on a mountain far from a trustworthy solution.)

I believe my last appointment was Week 2 of our last boot camp session #78. That would be the beginning of May (Mary? Want to confirm this?). That’s roughly 180 days.

So here I am, major WIZARD-GREY action happening (the photo above is not the latest…that’s in August 2017).

We are also in civilization again. The bustling city of Provo Utah.

People here seem to care about their appearance! CRAP.

Now I am with one foot on the “go grey” boat and the “girl you can wait to be 100% grey” boat.

We are also contemplating our next move: where where where do we want to go?

It’s nice enough here to stop for a while and consider getting a job (maybe I’ll finally get to be a waitress!). The previous towns: not so much.

Part of our plan to adventure became visiting places we might actually want to LIVE in. Should we stop here and live or should we carry onward into an unplanned and completely UNKNOWN path of living?


I stopped wearing make-up and doing my hair.

In the past I thought it was remarkable how much time women spent (not me) on preparing for the day. If we were invited out to an event or party I KNEW I’d have to stand in front of the mirror and do SOMETHING. I really hated it because, well, I’m untrained (to begin with) and I also don’t really like looking in the mirror.

Since I turned 50 I think a little differently about my appearance.

Along our travels I’m meeting men and women “my age” and much older. I see how BEAUTIFUL they are immediately. Some are packed with creases and lines across their skin revealing they laugh and smile a lot, some have skin hanging from their chins, there are extremely thin women and extremely large. Why am I worried about what I look like? What other people see?

About a month ago I decided to start giving a little more of a shit about it! I put mascara on even when we weren’t going out to an event. Then I admitted to myself that I needed to do something with my hair! It’s getting pretty long. So I began to put time into curling it (using my buff) every other night.


Yes. It is ok to care about what you look like IN YOUR OPINION OF YOURSELF.

Like it or not, people judge you for all sorts of reasons. They compare you to themselves or to what they feel is “good”. This has varying levels too, I know.

Recently, and I don’t think it is going away any time soon, men (and women!) are being outed for sexual harassment and disgusting behavior toward another human. This is never “asked for” no matter how you dress or look. It’s disturbing HOW MANY new names are added to the lists every single day.

Soon we’ll need to just know who ISN’T on the freaking list! A Pledge Of Honesty or some sort of badge so we know who we can trust. I know I’ve never sexually assaulted any one so I’ll go first.


I have VERY OFTEN thought that women were dressing to scantily and revealing. I wondered WHY would they dress this way? Is it all about being sexy and trying to entice the opposite sex? I would say yeah, that might be on the agenda. But I’ve got to believe that is isn’t THE MAJORITY reason.

If these women are so opposed to being hit on, why are they going to all that trouble to look so enticing? Men are just supposed to pretend they don’t notice?”


Read this article and you’ll see a completely awesome point of view on this topic.


The way we see ourselves is important.  Like it or not we judge other people by their appearance and behavior.  Why not put a little effort into seeing the beauty you have and letting it show?  Do it for the way it makes you feel inside (and maybe ask your Spouse what they like…I did and I always appreciate Randy’s honest answers – after all he looks at me more than anyone else on earth and it may as well be pleasant!)


I did it.  I finally got the nerve together to “do my hair”.

I still need to get a trim but overall I’m happy with the results.   Thanks Mary!

Published by Sarita Shoemaker

I love my kids, husband, pets, the Earth and family. My Top 5 feelings: gratitude, honor, honesty, respect, encouragement. Pretty certain this is how most of us would answer the prompt "About Me". Enough about me...how About You?

4 thoughts on “50 Shades Of Grey (hair)

  1. WOW!!👋🏽 Loved the “Buff Curling Video”. I too absolutely LOATHE dealing with my hair. Thankfully people tell me I have “good” hair so I’ve never had to do much with it, and like you, I rarely look in the mirror. However, couldn’t quite deal with the gray factor just yet, so I pulled the trigger a few years back and have succomed to the bottle (of dye-😉). Ewwww…still a constant reminder of aging which really sucks! Anyway, with all those chemicals, hair seems to dry out even quicker regardless of the endless water I drink – and since I like a little curl in my hair, the curling iron was drying things out WAY too much too. Now, your idea is definitely worth a try. Just have to get my arms in shape for all that upper body hair rolling 😉. Stay tuned! 💆🏻‍♀️

    They say real beauty comes from the inside so mascara be damned! LOL 👀

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  2. I try to balance what makes me feel comfortable with staying attractive for my hubby, as well as myself. I am not a daily makeup wearer, but I do put it on when I want to look pretty. There’s nothing wrong with wanting to look good. You are correct that you look too young & take good care of yourself to have grey hair. Save that for later years!

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  3. I decided to forego the color bottle 5 years ago and have never regretted it. My “lady” told me that if I wanted to go grey (she knew I would never tolerate the roots) I would need to go lighter so that the roots would not make me crazy. I have (before I was grey) dark brown hair. So every 4 weeks she added more and more lighter highlights. 6 months into it I was light enough that the grey was really blending. Never got another highlight or color treatment. Here it is 5 years later and I am told all the time how much people like the grey. I learned all about the purple shampoo so that it was shiny and silver. Never going back. d


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