Why “I Love You” Isn’t Enough: The Transformative Power of Adding “Because”

A Heartfelt Reflection for the Holiday Season

As the year 2025 draws to a close and we prepare to welcome 2026, I’ve been reflecting on those three little words we often say without much thought: “I love you.”

When we’re young, these words flow freely – to family, friends, even our pets (because let’s be honest, our furry companions absolutely deserve them). But as we grow older, something shifts. We become more thoughtful, more deliberate. We begin to question: Do I truly love this person? What does that even mean?

I believe we do love – just in different capacities and depths. And during this season of gratitude and connection, I’ve realized something powerful: “I love you” becomes infinitely more meaningful when followed by “because…”

Why Your “Because” Matters More Than You Think

One of my first HappyLope envelopes – I’m no expert painter, I just enjoy it a lot.

In our fast-paced world, we’ve reduced love to a casual sign-off. But what if we took a moment to deepen those connections? What if we explained why someone makes our heart beat a little faster, our soul a little brighter?

Here’s what I’ve discovered about adding “because” to “I love you”. These are my actual thoughts when I’m talking to a person, writing them a letter or email or just thinking about them with the radio off driving in silence. If you know me, you know which of these applies to you (some more than others).

ReasonWhy It Matters
You make me feel so appreciatedRecognition fuels our sense of worth in ways we often underestimate
You help me, constantlyConsistent support builds the foundation of lasting relationships
You support my goals and dreamsTrue love cheers for your growth, even when it means you might outgrow them
You are a good human beingCharacter matters more than charm when the years add up
You’re humble and caring without an audienceAuthentic kindness reveals true character
You keep calm in tough timesEmotional stability creates safety in relationships
You clearly want me to succeedSelfless support separates casual connections from meaningful bonds
You’re productive, motivated and inspiringGrowth-oriented people lift everyone around them
You share positivity that makes me feel goodJoy is contagious, and we become like those we spend time with

The Ripple Effect of Specific Love

When we articulate why we love someone, something magical happens. It’s not just about making them feel special (though it does that beautifully). It’s about training our own hearts to see the goodness in others.

This practice has changed how I move through the world. I find myself noticing more – the small kindnesses, the quiet strengths, the everyday graces that make people remarkable. And with each observation, my capacity to love deepens.

Your Challenge This Holiday Season

As we transition from 2025 to 2026, I invite you to try something simple but profound:

The next time you say “I love you,” add your “because.”

Start small. Maybe it’s to your partner: “I love you because you always know when I need quiet space.” Or to a friend: “I love you because you remember the little things that matter to me.” Even to your pet: “I love you because you greet me like I’m the most important person in the world, every single time.”

Say the words out loud!

At first, it might feel uncomfortable. That’s okay. Like any meaningful practice, it takes time to become natural. But trust me – the more you do it, the more you’ll see reasons to love the people in your life. And eventually, you won’t just be saying “I love you” more meaningfully – you’ll actually be feeling it more deeply.

This isn’t just about words. It’s about cultivating a mindset of gratitude and attention that transforms how we connect with everyone around us.

So as the clock ticks toward a new year, I leave you with this: Love grows when we name it. Try it, and watch how your relationships – and your heart – expand in ways you never expected.

What’s one “because” you’ll share this holiday season? I’d love to hear your stories in the comments below.

I love you because you are taking the time to pay attention to me through this tiny blog site I’ve had for a long time.

PLP,

Sarita

Peace! Love! Positivity!

The BEST Avocado Salad Ever

Fresh Black Bean & Avocado Cilantro Salad

A vibrant, protein‑packed salad that disappears every time it hits the table. Sweet corn, creamy avocado, and a zesty lime‑garlic dressing make it perfect for potlucks, picnics, or an easy week‑night side.


Ingredients

Salad

  • 2 (15‑oz) cans black beans, rinsed and drained
  • 3 ripe avocados, diced into bite‑size cubes
  • 2 cups chopped cilantro (packed)
  • 3 ears fresh corn, kernels removed (≈ 2 cups)
  • 1 red bell pepper, diced
  • ½ medium red onion, finely chopped
  • 1 cup cherry tomatoes, halved
  • ¾ cup cilantro leaves, roughly chopped (reserve for garnish)

Lime‑Garlic Dressing

  • A scant ¼ cup extra‑virgin olive oil
  • 2 garlic cloves, minced (use 2 bulbs only if you’re a garlic lover!)
  • ¼ tsp kosher salt
  • ½ tsp freshly ground black pepper
  • ¼ tsp cayenne pepper
  • ¼ cup freshly squeezed lime juice (≈ 2 limes)

Instructions

  1. Combine the salad base – In a large bowl, add black beans, corn, bell pepper, red onion, chopped cilantro (from the 2‑cup portion) and cherry tomatoes. Gently toss to distribute.
  2. Fold in avocado – Add the diced avocados and carefully fold with a spatula so the cubes stay mostly intact.
  3. Make the dressing – Add olive oil, garlic, salt, pepper, cayenne, and lime juice to a mason jar. Screw on the lid and shake vigorously until emulsified.
  4. Dress the salad – Pour dressing over the salad and toss gently until everything is lightly coated.
  5. Garnish – Transfer to a serving dish and sprinkle the reserved ¾ cup cilantro leaves over the top for a fresh pop of green.
  6. Chill – Cover and refrigerate for at least 2 hours to let the flavors meld. Serve chilled. NOTE: you do not have to wait 2 hours.

Tips & Variations

  • Char the corn on a grill or skillet first for a smoky twist.
  • Swap cayenne for finely diced jalapeño if you prefer fresh heat.
  • Add crumbled cotija or feta just before serving for a touch of creaminess.

This salad keeps well (covered) in the fridge for 2‑3 days—the lime juice helps the avocado stay bright.

A Call for Action: Making Social Security Identity Verification Accessible for Seniors

Why is this so complicated

I’ve been thinking…

The recent requirement for seniors to verify their identity in person to access Social Security benefits is a major hurdle—one that could leave many vulnerable individuals without the support they rely on. This isn’t just an inconvenience; it’s a crisis for those who have no transportation, no family or trusted friends to assist them, and no ability to navigate online systems. While some seniors can travel and handle these requirements, many cannot. We need real solutions—now.

Practical Solutions for Real People

It’s time to think outside the box. Here are a few ideas that could make this process easier, faster, and more accessible:

1. Drive-Through Verification Centers – Abandoned fast-food buildings or large parking lots could be transformed into drive-through verification sites, much like the instant systems used during the COVID-19 vaccine rollout. Seniors could verify their identity without ever leaving their vehicle.

2. Dedicated Senior-Only Weeks at Social Security Offices – One week per month could be set aside exclusively for individuals 64 and older, allowing them to be served more efficiently without long wait times.

3. Mobile Verification Units – Similar to food banks or farmers’ markets, these pop-up verification sites could travel county to county, staffed by Social Security employees, making access possible for those in rural or underserved areas.

4. Certified Medicare Broker Verification Program – A select group of actively licensed Medicare Brokers could be trained and certified to complete identity verifications using a secure system. This process would require multiple attestations to confirm a person’s identity, ensuring integrity and accuracy. To participate, brokers would need to hold licenses with at least five different Medicare carriers, proving their commitment and investment in serving seniors. This certification would come with strict ethical guidelines—one violation, and they lose their credentials.

Why We Must Act

There’s no question that fraud exists, and people abusing the system only make it harder for those who genuinely need help. However, forcing all seniors to go through a process they may not physically be able to complete isn’t the answer. We can create solutions that maintain security while also protecting and respecting the people who built this country.

Investing in these solutions requires trust—trust that people will act with integrity and that those in power will prioritize seniors over bureaucracy. But make no mistake: doing nothing is not an option.

As a Medicare Broker, I see the challenges seniors face every day. I go through extensive training and licensing every year, dedicating 40–60 hours to ensuring I have the knowledge needed to help my clients navigate their healthcare options. This isn’t just my job—it’s my mission. Every senior deserves access to their benefits without unnecessary obstacles.

Now, we need policymakers and decision-makers to step up and make Social Security identity verification accessible, fair, and practical for all.

Sarita Shoemaker

March 24, 2025

Why is this so complicated

Be a Badass at What You Can Control

You don’t need permission, signs, or labels to treat people the way you want to be treated.

How you react to anything is up to you. If you want the world to be a better place, start by figuring out how you can make it better—then worry about others.

This concept applies to everything.

The energy you put into the world will match what you receive in return.

I didn’t fully realize this until 2022. At first, I didn’t believe it. I thought people who lived by this idea were just ignoring reality. But after years of practicing it, I know it’s true.

Don’t be miserable. Don’t blame others. Find what you can control and be a total badass at it. See the future you want—right now. Whatever it is, you can have it. But it starts with your mindset.

When things don’t go your way, pause. Ask yourself: What is the universe teaching me?

If you want to, you can do this.

It helped me—maybe it will help you too.

Story Time: Protecting Yourself In Healthcare

Three quick stories that can save you stress, peace of mind and MONEY!!

CRISIS TIME IS NOT THE RIGHT TIME TO PREPARE

Happily married couple for decades.  Successful husband and bread winner.  Wife raised their family.  Life was rolling along as planned until husband’s health took a turn.  They were Retired by this point in life and he was the ONLY person that had the data about their financial house, including their healthcare coverage. 

After a year of battling this health problem, husband became bed ridden and unable to communicate.  Wife did not know the circumstances she would be facing until too late.  She had to reconstruct their financial house and healthcare from clues.  She did not know passwords, accounts, names of plans…things you need to know.

  1. Share your Financial House data with your Spouse or if you are not married, share with someone you trust with your life choices.
  2. Complete a Medical Durable Power of Attorney (MDPOA) process FOR BOTH OF YOU so you can speak on the others’ behalf in crisis.   Not all States handle this the same.  Here is the COLORADO link.  https://cdphe.colorado.gov/palliative-care/advance-care-planning-for-patients-and-families
  3. In my field I have two PLATINUM GOLD resources that can help you navigate:  Andrea Wacker with Legal Shield and Shalah Mae Zimmerman – Mobile Notary (719) 491-3718.  Do not hesitate!  Call them now and get on their calendars to get this into motion.

ONE STEP SAVED $7,600

New Medicare Beneficiary visits doctor and discovers there will be three procedures that must be done.  Asks Doc to get the authorization IN WRITING before scheduling.  Doc office assures Beneficiary they are “good” so the procedures are scheduled and completed.  All is good. 

Beneficiary goes on a month-long vacation and returns to a bill for $7600 from Doc office. 

Calls them to ask why they are holding a bill for the procedures to which Doc Office says, “Carrier did not approve them.” 

Luckily, Beneficiary had this authorization IN WRITING and held her ground: that was NOT their problem and she is not paying that bill. 

Doc office tried to negotiate but failed.  Someone had a job at the Doc office to get authorizations and THEY LIED ABOUT IT.  The Carrier was in the clear: they had not given authorization.  The Beneficiary was in the clear: had it in writing that it was covered.  I can only assume that the Doc Office administrator that lied is not working there any longer.  

  1. Do not accept procedures without Prior Authorization.  Get this in writing.  Don’t be frustrated that you have to do this.  You will be glad you did!

PROOF IS EITHER IN THE PUDDING OR IN WRITING

Beneficiary called her Supplemental Company three times to make sure she was covered for a trip to Canada to visit friends. 

Three times, she asserts, she was told she was covered.  She is the type of person that plans! 

With peace of mind she visits Canada and on one of their excursions she falls off her bike crashing.  This landed her in the hospital for a lot of procedures and a week in-patient stay.  Now, remember, Canada isn’t going to accept Medicare.  How it works: she gets the care she needs, pays the Canadian bills and brings receipts home for reimbursement.  Which she did.  Her Supplemental Company DENIED HER REIMBURSEMENT completely. 

She (understandably) felt betrayed and asked,

“WHY did you deny my claim when I had three conversations confirming my coverage would follow me to Canada?  You confirmed it!”

and their response,

“PROVE IT.”

NO DICE, she could not…and now she is paying tens of thousands of credit card debt.  

  1. Again, get things IN WRITING.  
  2. Keep a journal of all of your conversations with carriers.  The date, time of call, reason for call, the individual people’s names you talked to, any “record or service number” connected to the call, record the call if you can, notes of outcome from the call.  This type of meticulous documentation is very useful in proving you did and said what you did and said!  Guess what the percentage of people is that KEEP RECORDS LIKE THIS?  Better yet, just ask 10 of your friends or family if they do.  I don’t have a scientific study to give you a perfect response but I’ve met with 250 people this year and 5 of you keep close track of all correspondence.

DISCLAIMER!

I wrote the above at 80 miles per hour. Pardon the errors and typos. AI is losing its mind with suggestions on changing and re-working my post. I have three days left to help people get their Medicare House in order for 2025.

Open Enrollment closes on December 7th at midnight.

CALL YOUR BROKER AND GET YOUR PLAN REVIEW DONE.

Call your loved ones on Medicare and check on them. You can confirm what your / their plan is for 2025 by calling Medicare (open 24/7) at 800-633-4227.

Me: 1 Menopause: 0

4/20/24 Monument, Colorado.

This pic was last week. My starting photo for the drops. Then look at today!  I did brush my hair in pic two.  Five days so far on the Body Balancing Drops!!

More details: included are my biometric stats. Now you know some personal deets about my measurements.😬   See charts below.

This all started after I waited 9 months for an appointment to see “the best most sought out women’s doctor” in town.  That appointment was awful.  

This doc told me:

1) “people that believe menopause equals weight gain are wrong. It’s diet and exercise.” Ya, well I freaking exercise 6 days a week and I eat clean healthy foods 7 days a week. Why was I turning into a ball with my midsection getting bigger and bigger! 

2) “why don’t you want to test for the Brach chromosome, you wanna just die and be a burden to your family?” I guess revealing how I feel about that to her was a super dumb idea. 

3)  “to be safe, you just need to have your breasts removed” 

4) “we can organize removing your uterus, you don’t need it anymore.”

5) “I’ll write you a prescription for hormone replacement drugs. And to deal with vaginal dryness (tmi?) I’ll prescribe a special pill thing (my words) you shove up there daily”. I ACTUALLY WENT AND GOT THIS DRUG and guess what the side effects are?  MORE WEIGHT GAIN and much more. 

Back to square one. Figure out and prioritize the bloating belly and now puffy face and puffy EVERYTHING I am dealing with. 

I did an awesome job with intermittent fasting. I liked it!  Saved tons of time on meal prep. Ha ha. Money too!  Visited the Doc that saved my life in 2005 (in California, Dr Zhao) who explained to me how my body cannot do fasting and that I need to EAT to provide nutrients and energy. Ok ok ok!! So I began eating again and using my LoseIt App.  I exercises daily at least 30 minutes: walking, kb, yoga, hiking. Now it FELT so good doing those things. 

BUT: The gaining continued.  My pants were so tight it was awful. I even bought belt loop extenders for pregnant women. 

I was off social media for most of this. I was journaling. I was reading my affirmations book 369. I worked on my business to keep my mind off of whatever was happening that was completely out of my control. I left most every social group and avoided invitations. 

Then I decided to get back on social media. Randy Shoemaker had stayed on while I was off and commented that our friend Julie Park was posting some amazing pictures.  I quietly started watching her. She’s my firearms instructor. I respect her so much. She was postingh success after success. I pm’d her: I want to try this. 

So I did. And now here I am changing those frustrating challenges.  I was pessimistic but here I am!  It is working for me. 

❤️sarita

PS still have my tatas and uterus and lost that doc’s number.

Take at look at my statistics!!!

Update: Day 23 just before Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day thought about these balancing drops. 

You would be giving a gift of RELIEF from so many issues we battle with a natural solution. Most of us just gut it out and “deal” with these issues but we secretly with they would just GO AWAY!  

I speak from my own experience. I waited 9 months to see the “top” women’s doctor in my town who was such a disappointment. 

Not only did she tell me what I was dealing with (weight gain, sleep interruptions, bloating, gas, cravings) wasn’t because of Menopause (and I asked her if I understood her correctly) but she insisted I wasn’t eating healthy and exercising enough. Btw, she didn’t ask how active I am not what I eat she just concluded. 

Next she righteously declared I wouldn’t need my uterus so let’s get rid of that. I MIGHT be positive for Brach cancer gene so we’ll just whack off the Girls.  I am on a fence deciding if I want to know my status and told her.

This was a huge trust to talk to her about. I’m pretty private about this topic because of my family history. Her response was a flippant, “so you just want to become a burden to your family then”. 

Lastly, she prescribed hormone replacement treatment and a special cream to inject up into my lady parts. 

I left that meeting feeling worse than when I walked in the door. I had a tiny bit of “hope” that seeing a doctor (supposedly the best one) get me headed in the right direction. 

The HRT and injection stuff listed the first side-effect (I am the type of person that will read labels alllllll the way thru) WEIGHT GAIN. Seriously, what the HECK!!  

Getting rounder and rounder was happening. The bloating. The gas. Oh, and I did intermittent fasting. I eat great!  I could use more fresh vegetables but I eat them daily. 

Then I saw posts Julie Park (my firearms instructor) made about her health battle that included a few of the same things I was struggling with.  I decided WHAT THE HECK, I’m trying it. 

Today is Day 23.

❤️The relief I have today is unbelievable!  Truly, a wish granted.   

🧡I dropped 12 lbs, 

🩷3%  body fat, 

💛I sleep solid 8 hours, 

⭐️I HAVE NO BLOATING OR GAS after eating, 

🩷my spirits have stayed up and I just feel so good from the moment I wake up through the night sleeping. 

💚I also do not crave sugar or sugary things at all. Like zilch. 

🩵 I feel satiated after eating half of what I used to put on my plate. 

❤️ I have energy to hike longer (and my knees are cooperating!) so now I’m getting in more mileage in my time. 

If I didn’t already have these Balancing Drops in my life I’d wish for them for Mother’s Day.   

I will never stop talking about them because they work and I’m not facing needles or pills with side effects.  I believe this bothers people but if you found something like this, and you know you aren’t alone in this battle, wouldn’t you want a friend or loved one to have RELIEF?

I can get people these drops!  

Guys and gals. There is RELIEF waiting! 

My Day 1 pic shows me smiling because Randy Shoemaker insisted. Inside I am: miserable, frustrated, irritated, depressed at the same time as hopeful but I don’t want to get my hopes up too high (for the 1000th time) and excited because I see the balancing drops doing things that I’ve wanted for years…

My current pic is me on a solo 5K hike this week.  Lots of elevation. Oh, and I didn’t need my poles!!! I just realized my last hikes have been without my poles!!!  Omg another win! My knees are fine!  I cannot wait to share this with Dr. Venkatesh Movva!!

The inflammation in my body is dropping. The proof is in REALITY for me.

Get the drops. 

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